Turning Negatives into Positives by Patrice Brown

If anybody has been through a life changing experience, I hope your life changed for the BETTER. And if it didn't, I pray that you begin to allow it to. I understand that some bad situations only provoke you to see the negative but, its an important characteristic of life to see the positive in the worst situations. Every negative situation does not have to be the end-of-life. Every negative situation can and does have a positive outcome. 100% of your life is how you perceive it.

A situation that nearly killed me actually SAVED my life. It sincerely changed my mindset and bought the best out of me. An almost-death situation probably almost always gets that reaction out of people. I can promise you that it took that situation to happen for me to turn over a new leaf. My life and mind completely experienced a 180 degree turn around. I can say that the way I was living was like I was invincible, like no evil can harm me or no death could touch me. As children and/or teens, most of us feel that way. Like bad things that happen in the world, or in right in front of our faces, could never happen to us.

Sometimes it takes more than one bad thing to happen to someone for that person to actually change. More times than others, people learn from personal experience. You can tell a child over and over the stove is hot, but majority of the time they wont believe it until they get burned. People in a bad situation probably won't see the bad in it until something very drastic happens. Accepting Advice from others may sound like the right thing to do but might be hard for you to do. Take it from someone who stays in an abusive relationship by choice. In those unfortunate situations, some people get killed or commit murder  in self-defense before they realize it was never a good situation.

Growing up in "the hood", or just having a tough life, can do a lot of things to you; one thing it can do is cause you to survive by any means necessary. This can be a necessary trait to have in your adult life. Some people take that situation and want to do better and be better. Some people wallow in their sorrows and blame their obscene behavior on the way they grew up or the horrible things they've seen. Regardless of it all,  going through tough times puts a fight in you. Some people fight for positive things and others just fight.

Here's some things you can do to see the best in tough situations:


1. Allow yourself to feel pain. We feel pain so bad sometimes that we never want to feel that type of pain again.  Pain teaches you lessons. Allow it to teach you how to never feel that kind of pain again.

2. Self-reflect. Think about the mistakes or decisions you made to put yourself in that situation or predicament. Tough situations are always the perfect times for self-reflection. The ultimate goal of life is to progress, to be better than you were yesterday.

3. Tell your story, share your journey. You may not be a writer or want to blog but simply telling your story can help you in many ways and also allows you to be a help others. Venting is a good thing to do when something is on your mind. That doesn't mean tell your business on social media or to some random person you just meet. Confide in someone you trust, a friend, or even a therapist. Going to a therapist does not mean you have a mental illness or you're crazy. Some people go to therapist because talking helps and they're paid to keep your secrets. Sometimes being that light in someone else's life can help a little light come into yours.

4. Celebrate. Celebrate when the tough times are over. Hell! Celebrate while you're going through it if you can bring yourself to do it. That doesn't mean go drink or smoke your problems away. Those are temporary fixes, and often time you're focusing on your next high instead of what you could be doing to change the situation. I prefer drinking when I'm in a good mood instead of drinking to help me be in a good mood. Celebrating can mean getting out of the house, going for a walk, treating yourself to a frozen yogurt date, doing something creative, catching up with a friend, watching television, or listening to music.

5. Move on. Let's not forget to move on from tough situations. Situations last as long as you focus on them. The quicker you move on, the quicker the situation is over.

Going through tough situations often put a damper on our spirits and our lives. We forget to live after we wallow or feel pain. Remembering to enjoy life is very important, life or death even. Don't let the pain or tough situations keep you down or take you under.

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  1. We learn something new everyday. Fortunately its at the mind of a genius.

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